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ᮂ Format Kindle Read @The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too) ⚢ Book By Gretchen Rubin ⚻ ᮂ Format Kindle Read @The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too) ⚢ Book By Gretchen Rubin ⚻ 1The Four TendenciesThe Origin of the Four Tendencies How the Tendencies Weave Throughout Our Characters Why Its Helpful to Identify Our Own Tendency Why Its Helpful to Identify Others TendenciesI didnt realize it at the time, but when I walked through the door of the Atlantic Grill restaurant one blustery winter afternoon, I was heading to one of the most significant conversations of my life.As I bit into my cheeseburger and my friend picked at her salad, she made a comment that would occupy my mind for years In an offhand way, she mentioned, I want to get myself in the habit of running, but I cant, and it really bothers me Then she added, in a crucial observation, When I was on the high school track team, I never missed track practice, so why cant I go running now Why I echoed.Well, you know, its so hard to make time for ourselves.Hmmm, I said.We started talking about other things, but even after wed said good bye, I couldnt stop thinking about our exchange She was the same person shed been in high school, and she was aiming to do the same activity Shed been able to go running in the past, but not now Why Was it her age, her motivation, her family situation, the location, team spirit, or something else She assumed that we all have trouble making time for ourselves But actually I dont have any trouble making time for myself How were she and I different from each other I would spend the next few years trying to answer these questions.The Origin of the Four TendenciesThey say there are two kinds of people in the world those who divide the world into two kinds of people, and those who dont.Im definitely the first kind My great interest is human nature, and I constantly search for patterns to identify what we do and why we do it.Ive spent years studying happiness and habits, and it has become obvious to me that theres no magic, one size fits all answer for building a happier, healthier, productive life Different strategies work for different peoplein fact, what works for one person may be the very opposite of what works for someone else Some people are morning people some are night people Some do better when they abstain from a strong temptation others, when they indulge in moderation Some people love simplicity some thrive in abundance.And not only that As I pondered my friends observation about her running habit, I sensed that deep below the night people vs morning people sorts of differences, there existed some kind of bedrock distinction that shaped peoples naturessomething profound, but also bold and obviousthat nevertheless eluded my vision.To help figure out what I was missing, I posed a number of questions to readers of my website, including How do you feel about New Years resolutions Do you observe traffic regulationswhy or why not Would you ever sign up to take a class for fun As readers responses poured in, I saw that distinct patterns were threaded through the various answers It was almost weirdas though groups of people had agreed to answer from the same script.For instance, about New Years resolutions, a subset of people gave virtually identical answers Ill keep a resolution if its useful, but I wont start on New Years Day, because January 1 is an arbitrary date They all used that word arbitrary I was intrigued by this specific word choice, because the arbitrariness of the January 1 date had never bothered me Yet these people were all giving the same answerwhat did they have in common And many people answered, I dont make New Years resolutions any because I never manage to keep themI never make time for myself.Another group said, I never make resolutions because I dont like to bind myself.There was some meaningful design here, I knew it, but I just couldnt quite see it.Then finally, after months of reflection, I had my eureka moment As I sat at my desk in my home office, I happened to glance at my messy handwritten to do listand suddenly it hit me The simple, decisive question was How do you respond to expectations Id found it Id discovered the key I felt the same excitement that Archimedes must have felt when he stepped out of his bath I was sitting still, but my mind was racing forward with thoughts about expectations I grasped at that moment that we all face two kinds of expectations outer expectationsexpectations others place on us, like meeting a work deadlineinner expectationsexpectations we place on ourselves, like keeping a New Years resolutionAnd here was my crucial insight Depending on a persons response to outer and inner expectations, that person falls into one of four distinct types Upholders respond readily to both outer expectations and inner expectationsQuestioners question all expectations they meet an expectation only if they believe its justified, so in effect they respond only to inner expectationsObligers respond readily to outer expectations but struggle to meet inner expectationsRebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alikeIt was that simple With just one single, straightforward question, all of humanity sorted itself into these categories.Now I understood why my friend had trouble forming the habit of running She was an Obliger When shed had a team and a coach expecting her, she had no trouble showing up when she faced her own inner expectations, she struggled I understood those repetitious comments about New Years resolutions And I understood much, much .The Four Tendencies framework clarified the striking patterns of behavior Id perceived, and I was able to make sense of what everyone else had seenbut no one else had noticed.When I mapped the complete system on a sheet of paper, in four symmetrical overlapping circles, my framework showed the elegance of a fern frond or a nautilus shell I truly felt that Id uncovered a law of nature human nature.Or maybe Id created something like a Muggle Sorting Hat.Once Id identified the framework, I worked to deepen my understanding The Strategy of the Four Tendencies became the first chapter in Better Than Before, my book about habit change I wrote about the Four Tendencies on my website, gretchenrubin.com my cohost and sister, Elizabeth Craft, and I talked about the Four Tendencies on our weekly podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin Every time I discussed the framework, readers and listeners responded.Most people can identify their Tendency from a brief description, but for people who arent sure or who want their answers to be analyzed, I designed a quiz Hundreds of thousands of people have taken the Four Tendencies Quiz, which appears in chapter 2 or at happiercast.com quiz Peoples answers to the quiz, as well as their open ended responses, gave me an additional trove of insights For one thing, Ive noticed that peoples Tendencies influence their willingness to take the quiz Questioners sometimes ask, Why should I spend my time and effort taking this quiz and Rebels sometimes think, Youre telling me to take this quiz Well, I wont do it To test my observations about the Four Tendencies, I decided to run a study of the framework among a nationally representative sample, to examine a geographically dispersed group of U.S adults with a mix of gender, age, and household income.The most important thing I discovered The distribution of the Four Tendencies At 41%, Obliger was the largest Tendency Next came Questioner, at 24% The Rebel Tendency had the fewest members, at 17%Im surprised that the survey put the number that highand my own Tendency, the Upholder Tendency, was just slightly larger at 19% The study also confirmed many of my observations about the Four Tendencies for instance, when considering New Years resolutions, Upholders are most likely to make them Rebels dislike them Questioners make resolutions when the time seems right rather than waiting for an arbitrary date and often Obligers give up making resolutions altogether because theyve struggled in the past.As I refined the framework, I even assigned a color to each Tendency, by using the model of a traffic light Yellow represents Questioners, because just as a yellow light cautions us to wait to decide whether to proceed, Questioners always ask Wait, why before meeting an expectation Green represents Obligers, who readily go ahead Red represents Rebels, who are most likely to stop or say no Because theres no fourth traffic light color, I chose blue for Upholderswhich seems fitting.The that Ive studied the Tendencies, the I see their tremendous influence.When we consider the Four Tendencies, were better able to understand ourselves This self knowledge is crucial because we can build a happy life only on the foundation of our own nature, our own interests, and our own values.Just as important, when we consider the Four Tendencies, were better able to understand other people We can live and work effectively with others when we identify their Tendenciesas coworkers and bosses, teachers and coaches, husbands and wives, parents and children, health care providers and patients.Understanding the Four Tendencies gives us a richer understanding of the world.How the Tendencies Weave Throughout Our CharactersOur Tendencies are hardwired theyre not the result of birth order, parenting style, religious upbringing, gender Theyre not tied to extroversion or introversion They dont change depending on whether were at home, at work, with friends And they dont change as we age We bring these Tendencies into the world with us.To a degree that surprises me, most people do indeed fall squarely into one of the four camps While it can sometimes be difficult to identify a childs Tendency I still cant figure out the Tendency of one of my daughters , by adulthood we clearly fit into a particular Tendency that shapes our perceptions and behavior in fundamental ways Unless we go through some catastrophic, character reshaping experiencesuch as a near death experience, a grave illness, or a serious bout with addictionour Tendencies dont change.Depending on history and circumstance, though, our Tendency might be or less helpful as we make our way in the world In North Korea, a Questioners questions might get him thrown in jail, while in Silicon Valley a Questioners questions might win her a promotion.Also, theres an enormous range of personalities, even among people who share the same Tendency Regardless of Tendency, some people are or less thoughtful than others, or ambitious, intellectual, controlling, charismatic, kind, anxious, energetic, or adventurous These qualities dramatically influence how they express their Tendencies An ambitious Rebel who wants to be a well respected business leader will behave differently from one who doesnt care much about having a successful career.People often argue that theyre a mix of Tendencies They tell me, Im an Obliger and an Upholder, or My Tendency changes depending on where I am or who Im with This may sound sensible, but I must say that when I ask a few questions, the person falls easily within a single Tendency, almost without exception.To be sure, as discussed in the sections on Variations Within the Tendency, people often tip in the direction of a Tendency that overlaps with their own, but nevertheless they still remain firmly located within a core Tendency.And, of course, its also true that no matter what our fundamental Tendency, a small part of each of us is Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, and Rebel.All of us meet an expectation when we dont want to bear the consequences of ignoring it The Rebel wears his seat belt after he pays a few big fines.All of us may question why we should have to meet an expectation, or become annoyed by inefficiency, or refuse to do something that seems arbitrary.We all meet some expectations because theyre important to someone else The most determined Upholder will sacrifice her regular Monday morning meeting if her child is recovering from surgery.And whatever our Tendency, we share a desire for autonomy We prefer to be asked rather than ordered to do something, and if our feeling of being controlled by others becomes too strong, it can trigger reactance, a resistance to something thats experienced as a threat to our freedom or our ability to choose.After Id described the Four Tendencies at a conference, a guy walked up to me and said, I think everyone should be able to drive at whatever speed they think is safe, so I must be a Questioner I smiled, but the fact is, its not a simple matter of I ignore the speed limit, so Im a Questioner, or I refuse to wash dishes, therefore Im a Rebel, or I love to do lists, so Im an Upholder To identify our Tendency, we must consider many examples of our behavior and our reasons for our behaviors For example, a Questioner and a Rebel might both reject an expectation, but the Questioner thinks, I wont do it because it doesnt make sense, while the Rebel thinks, I wont do it because you cant tell me what to do.Ive learned that while each of the Four Tendencies poses its difficulties, people find the Obliger and the Rebel Tendencies the most challengingwhether as a member of that Tendency themselves or dealing with that Tendency in others Which is why the Obliger and Rebel sections in this book are longer than the Upholder and Questioner sections Many people try to map the Four Tendencies against other personality frameworks, such as the Big Five personality traits, the Enneagram, Myers Briggs, the four humors, the four paths of yogaeven onto the four houses of Hogwarts.Im fascinated by any scheme that helps me to understand human nature, but I think its a mistake to try to say that this equals that Each framework captures a certain insight, and that insight would be lost if all of the systems were dumped together No single system can capture human nature in all of its depth and variety.Also, I think that many personality frameworks cram too many elements into their categories By contrast, the Four Tendencies describes only one narrow aspect of a persons charactera vitally important aspect, but still just one of the multitude of qualities that form an individual The Four Tendencies explains why we act and why we dont act.Why Its Helpful to Identify Our Own TendencyWhen I describe the Four Tendencies, I sometimes get the impression that people try to figure out the best Tendency and shoehorn themselves into it But theres no best or worst Tendency The happiest, healthiest, most productive people arent those from a particular The Four Tendencies will immediately improve every area of your lifeand I say this from personal experience If youve been feeling stuck in your relationships, career, health, or self confidence, understanding your Tendency and how to make it work for you is the game changer youve been looking for Melissa Hartwig Upholder , author and cocreator of The Whole30 The path to happiness starts with your personality In The Four Tendencies, Gretchen Rubin upends the conventional wisdom of one prescription fitting all people and offers readers a tailored path to better health, relationships and well being A remarkable read from one of the most practical storytellers on the planet Tom Rath Questioner , author of Are You Fully Charged and StrengthsFinder 2.0 This Rebel cant help but agree with the crowd you need to read The Four Tendencies The online quiz is mega popular for good reason, but the book will give you unexpected, lasting insights You ll learn to make better decisions based on what works best for your specific personality profilenot what anyone else expects or demands Chris Guillebeau Rebel , author of Side Hustle and host of the podcast Side Hustle School The Four Tendencies is a remarkably well crafted and insightful book Gretchen Rubin taught me why, as a Rebel, my expectations often clash with others expectations and helped me develop a compassionate view Better still, The Four Tendencies offers powerful steps that we can all take to have constructive relationships with the people in our lives Robert Sutton Rebel , Stanford Professor and author of The Asshole Survival Guide How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt The greatest predictor of growth and happiness is actionable self knowledge Gretchen Rubin gives you the tools to not only understand yourself and others, but what to do with that knowledge.Insightful, practical and crucial, The Four Tendencies willhelp you overcome the biggest impediments to your happiness and success Shawn Achor Upholder , author of The Happiness Advantage and Before Happiness Gretchen Rubin has discovered a new framework for understanding ourselves and other people When we know our Tendency, we can manage ourselves effectively and reach our goals fasterand we can help others to do that, as well As a researcher who has studied habits, addiction, and change for 20 years, Im excited by the simplicity and power of The Four Tendenciesas a tool for anyone seeking to make his or her life better I am implementing this in myclinical programs to help people understand their Tendencies so they can change behaviors such as stress and emotional eating Judson Brewer, MD, PhD Questioner , author of The Craving Mind and associate professor in medicine and psychiatry at the University of Massachusetts Medical School Gretchen Rubins groundbreaking Four Tendencies framework is a simple yet powerful tool that helps us better recognize our own nature, harness its strengths, and counteract its weaknesses With her trademark wit and insight, Gretchen gives us the tools to create the life we want, in a way thats right for us.The surprising thing Once you know about these four types, you see them everywhere Susan David, PhD, Upholder , cofounder of the Institute of Coaching and author of Emotional Agility If you want to change anything in your life, you need Gretchen Rubin Her ideas are original, instinctive and revolutionary Whether you want to get fitter, work smarter or be tidier, she shows you how to tweak your habits almost effortlessly This Rebel sleeps better, deletes email, is three stone lighter and forever in her debt Viv Groskop Rebel , journalist and comedian I love Gretchen Rubinand she helps me understand both myself and the people around me Cathy Rentzenbrink Obliger , author of The Last Act of Love The Four Tendencies The Indispensable Personality will immediately improve every area of your life and I say this from personal experience If you ve been feeling stuck in relationships, career, health, or self confidence, understanding Tendency how to make it work for is Gretchen Rubin Of everything learned about habits human nature working on my book Better Than Before, the 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    • The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People's Lives Better, Too)
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