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ᥘ Format Kindle ᗃ Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys store ᦔ PDF by Dan Kindlon Ph.D. ᦿ ᥘ Format Kindle ᗃ Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys store ᦔ PDF by Dan Kindlon Ph.D. ᦿ The Road Not TakenTurning Boys Away from Their Inner LifeA young man is so strong, so mad, so certain, and so lost.He has everything and he is able to use nothing Thomas Wolfe, Of Time and the RiverLuke, thirteen, pauses at the office door, undecided whether to take his baseball cap off or leave it alone he pulls it off and steps in the room the school psychologist s office.Come on in, Luke.Have a seat in the big chair.An oversized, ancient, leathery brown Naugahyde chair dwarfs all but the largest athletes at this all boy school.Some boys sink deep into the chair as if hoping to distance themselves from scrutiny others sit stiffly on its edge, clearly uncomfortable with the unnerving assignment to look inward.In our work with boys at schools and in private practice, we see this body language all the time.Boys approach their emotionswith much the same awkwardness, alternately sinking into the depths or sitting stiffly on the edge of feelings threaten to overwhelm them.Luke s a good kid.He plays drums in the school band and makes fair grades, though they ve dropped lately.At school he s not part of the popular clique, but he does have friends.He s not in the jock crowd and mostly steers clear of them.So what brings him here In the past few months Luke has grown increadingly sarcastic and sullen, and especially argumentative with his father.A few evenings ago, concerned about his grades, his parents turned down his request to participate in an optional after school activity.Luke flew into a rage.Stormed off to his room.Slammed doors.Kicked a hole in his bedroom wall.His mother was stunned by the violent outburst, his father was livid, but they left him alone to cool off.The next morning Dad left early for work, Luke had a headache and took a sick day off from school, and his mother called the school to see if anyone there might know what s troubling him.Luke s advisor suggested the counseling visit.Now here we sit, and Luke is bothe nervous and angry at the prospect of talking about any of this, but most especially about his feelings.He has pushed himself back and sideways into the chair as far as he can go.His KEEP OUT sign is clearly posted.The declining grades and the escalating hostility at home especially the explosive outburst are red flags of concern to everyone but Luke I m fine, he says defiantly, while his eyes flash with anger at having been sent here at all.As we talk, the questions cruise the perimeter of his life academics, music, friendships, family.His answers are curt, cautious,a nd begrudging, puncuated with shrugs and a steely expression intended to keep the conversation from moving any closer than that outer edge.He doesn t have an explanation for his recent behavior, and although he reluctantly agrees that talking about feelings might help, he shies away from it I just need to work harder, he syas, shifting the focus to his grades.I don t need help.I m not crazy, he says.My parents are the ones with the problem.But we re here to talk about Luke s feelings He offers a candid, perfunctory assessment of home and school life His eight year old sister is an idiot.His older brother is a jerk.His father, a businessman, isn t around much gone early, home late most days.His mother treats hime like a five year old and pisses him off with all her questions.And although he has friends and likes a few of his teachers, for the most part, school sucks.That about covers it.About the other night.The rage and that hole in the bedroom wall.You must have been prety mad to do that Luke looks wary, and even a little scared.He shrugs.You look sad.Do you feel sad Luke quickly looks down, and his eyes begin to well up with tears Clearly his is hurting, but it is masked in the toughness that fills his voice I don t know.Maybe, I guess.Let s see if we can figure out what s making you feel so bad.Every troubled boy has a different story, but their stories share a disturbing theme of emotional ignorance and isolation.Each day we try to connect withboys like Luke, who are unversed in the subtleties of emotional language and expression and threatened by emotional complexity.When we ask them to open up, most, like Luke, respond with the same fight or flight response we all have to threatening situations.We see boys who, frightened or saddened by family discord, experience those feelings only as mounting anger or an irritable wish that everyone would just leave me alone Shammed by school problems or stung by criticism, they lash out or withdraw emotionally.A boy s world is full of contraditions, and parents are often at a loss to figure out how best to help.One mother asks how she can offer wise counsel to her eight year old son, when her advice to use words instead of physical aggression only earns him teasing and abuse from his peers.Another wants to know how she can get through to her brooding eleven year old when he fends off her attempts to make conversation Now everythin s an argument we argue than we talk and even when I know something s bothering him, he won t talk about his feelings just like my husband A father asks how he is supposed to help his teenage son when the boy won t listen or is openly hostile.A boy longs for connection at the same time he feels the need to pull away, and this opens up an emotional divide.This struggle between his need for connection and his desire for autonomy finds different expression as a boy grows.But, regardless of their age, most boys are ill prepared for the challenges along the road to becoming an emotionally healthy adult.Whatever role biology plays and that role is by no means clear in the ways boys are characteristically different from girls in their emotional expression, those differences are amplified by a culture that supports emotional development of girls and discourages it for boys.Stereotypical notions of masculine toughness deny a boy his emotional resources.We call this process, in which a boy is steered away from his inner world, the emotional miseducation of boys.It is a training away from healthful attachment and emotional understanding and expression, and it affects even the youngest boy, who learns quickly, for instance, that he must hide his feelings and silence his fears.A boy is left to manage conflict, adversity, and change in his life with a limited emotional repertoire.If your toolbox contains only a hammer, it s not a problem as long asall your equipment is running right or repairs call only for pounding.But as tasks grow complex, the hammer s limitations become clear.Brilliant This affectionate, encouraging book should be require reading for anyone raising or educating a boy The Washington PostRaising Cain gives a long needed insight into that mysterious, magical land, the psyches of boys Every parent, teacher or anyone who wants boys to flourish should read this book DANIEL GOLEMAN Author of Emotional IntelligenceENORMOUSLY COMPELLING In much the same way that Reviving Ophelia offered new models for raising girls, therapists Kindlon and Thompson argue that boys desperately need a new standard of emotional literacy This thoughtful book is recommended for parents, teachers, or anyone with a vested interest in raising happy, healthy, emotionally whole young men Publishers Weekly starred review RAISING CAIN HELPS US UNDERSTAND THE INNER LIVES OF BOYS MUCH AS MARY PIPHER S REVIVING OPHELIA SHED LIGHT ON THE STRUGGLE OF THE ADOLESCENT GIRL The Tampa Tribune Times Raising Cain Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys Raising Dan Kindlon, Michael Thompson on FREE shipping qualifying offers In Cain, PhD and Thompson, two country s leading child psychologists IMDb The oncologist wife a prominent psychologist suspects her husband has an unhealthy scientific obsession with their child, 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    • Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
    • 4.5
    • 855
    • Format Kindle
    • 320 pages
    • 0345434854
    • Dan Kindlon Ph.D.
    • Anglais
    • 22 August 2017

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