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⑊ The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace eBook: Shaunti Feldhahn: Amazon.fr: Amazon Media EU  S.à r.l. library ⑳ Kindle Ebook By Shaunti Feldhahn ┘ ⑊ The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace eBook: Shaunti Feldhahn: Amazon.fr: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l. library ⑳ Kindle Ebook By Shaunti Feldhahn ┘ CHAPTER 1 A New Skill Set Are you saying women don t already know that The charismatic African American businessman sitting next to me in first class looked at me in disbelief We were only a few minutes into the usual What do you do airplane conversation when I shared something that apparently stunned him I had explained that I was a financial analyst by training, had worked on Wall Street, and was now, unexpectedly, a bestselling author and speaker about relationships His inevitable question What s your main topic Men I grinned at his wry expression I spent a few years interviewing and surveying a few thousand men My last book identifies some ways that men tend to privately think and feel, that women tend not to know He folded his arms across his chest, and it was his turn to chuckle OK, he said, hit me with one So I shared one of my findings about men one that I will share with you in the following pages and that is when the amusement turned to disbelief When I confirmed that even the most astute women may not know that particular truth about men, I could see that suddenly, his thoughts were off in a universe of their own If he hadn t been strapped in his seat, I think he would have gotten up and startedpacing That explains something he finally said You see, I m a corporate trainer and consultant Fortune 100 corporations bring me in to help with leadership and strategy at the highest levels of the organization And all too often, I see skilled and talentedwomen sabotage their careers because they treat the men they work with in a way that no man would treat another man He looked at me with awakening interest But from what you re telling me, these women probably don t even realize that that is what they are doing It was my turn to be interested, and my notebook and pen were already out Can you give me an example I ll give you an example of something that just happened a few hours ago For the next few minutes, he told me his story which I ll relay in a later chapter , and concluded, I was so puzzled why this female executive would shoot herself in the footlike that But perhaps she simply didn t understand how her actions would be perceived by her colleagues colleagues who were mostly men THE HOLE IN THE BUCKET The range of what we think and do is limited by what we fail to notice And, because we fail to notice that we fail to notice, there is little we can do to change until we notice how our failing to notice shapes our thoughts and deeds R D LAING Over the last few decades, corporations across America have developed a bucket of programs to help advance or retain women Many approaches have been quite effective others, better in theory than in practice We ve seen a surge in management attentionto work life balance issues particularly to retain working moms and a corresponding surge in flextime and telecommuting options Businesses and industry groups are increasingly fostering female networks and mentoring relationships as an alternative to playinggolf with the guys, and are emphasizing professional development for rising women Organizations large and small have studied and trained their people on avoiding sexual harassment, and on the unique needs of female workers, customers, and stakeholders Gender equitytask forces have proliferated But as valuable as that effort is, I ve come to realize that it has a significant hole We as women can be skilled, talented, highly educated, mentored, networked and yet trade all of that away by unintentionally undermining ourselves in our interactionswith male colleagues As my new friend on the airplane put it, we can still sabotage ourselves simply because we do not understand the male factor some relevant truths about how the male half of the population thinks and thus how they may be perceiving or misperceiving our words and actions Even without that potential trap, we may be missing some important insight, effectiveness, and tactical advantage through a simple gap in information a gap exacerbated by the fact that as you will see men often have clear internal expectations but don tfeel able to openly share what they are privately thinking So the end result is the same A woman can all too easily be missing valuable information that might be helpful or important for her information that she would presumably want to know in today smarket One senior executive put it this way Women in business have seen some tremendous opportunities open up, but have also seen that it is still a man s world in many ways What I mean, though, is different than you may think What I mean is that, historically, for better or for worse, men prettymuch created what we mean by the business world today And since men still tend to hold most of the top level positions, their subconscious ideas about how things should work are still framing the debate It would be extremely helpful for women to have insights into what it s like to be a man in that business world When men say things like, It s not personal it s business, it would be helpful for women to understand what it s business actually meansin the minds of the men whose ideas originally defined that business world Based on everything I have heard from men about how they think and feel and how surprising some of those facts have been to the millions of women who have read my previous books or heard me discuss those findings I would argue that understanding menin the ways that might impact us is a career critical skill set that women can develop, like any other Over the years, I ve heard from hundreds of women readers who were validated that they had already recognized and incorporated some of these truths into their workplace approach and from many others who wished they had learned these often hidden truthsearlier or better All of us want to be perceived as getting it instead of triggering the unspoken question, Why would she do that While the need for understanding is most obvious among younger women who are still learning their way in the marketplace, a better understandingof men has certainly helped senior female professionals, as well One senior vice president found her work relationships with men improving so much after she read my original book that she personally bought one hundred copies, one for every woman in her department If in your line of work you have any significant interaction with male superiors, coworkers, subordinates, customers, or other constituents, it is worth it to get inside their heads and better understand what they privately think especially in areas thataffect you, but that they would never tell you themselves Not because their way is right, or because you should necessarily adapt to their expectations, but because their perceptions exist and could be affecting you regardless of whether you know what theyare Far better to have full information, so you can make the informed decisions that are right for you MEN 101 You may have seen the humorous graphic comparing women and men to two different old fashioned control panels The one labeled Woman has dozens of random buttons, gauges, and circuit breakers The one labeled Man has an on off switch Pop culture suggests women are complex, while men are straightforward And in some ways, that may seem to be true But in other ways, I ve found it to be quite misleading and dangerously so Not taking into account the complexity and depth of men s thinkingcan put women at a significant disadvantage How I Woke Up to What I Didn t Know In 2001, I stumbled across some important facts about what men are often privately thinking and feeling, that women often never know I had recently moved with my husband from New York City to Atlanta, and was working as a financial and organizational analyst In my spare time I was also writing fiction One of my main characters in my second novel was a man, a good, decent husband andfather and successful businessman And I realized that although I could put on paper what my character was doing in my various scenes, I had no idea how to write what a man would be thinking So I began asking male friends for help I would describe a givenscene, and then ask, What would you be thinking in this situation And I often found myself shocked Over and over again, the men described foundational, private thoughts that I would never have guessed at They described deep, daily ways of thinking and feeling that were a complete surprise to me even after eight yearsof marriage I kept thinking to myself, Why have I not heard this before I started doing and of these interviews, hitting up everyone from my male colleagues to the guys behind the counter at Starbucks And it soon became clear that what I was learning was too important to stop with creating a character in a novel.So once the novel was finished I began a systematic approach to investigating the most important things that women just tend not to get about men Over the course of several years, I interviewed and surveyed than 1,500 men, conducting two professional,nationally representative surveys Very early on, I realized that what I was hearing related to either a man s personal life or his work life The men would sometimes describe how they felt or thought in a given home life scenario, and sometimes describe their private impressions at theoffice Both were equally eye opening to me But I couldn t tackle both in the same book So I started with the personal relationships, and wrote For Women Only What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men, which was published in 2004 Shortly thereafter,my husband, Jeff, and I teamed up to write the companion book, For Men Only A Straightforward Guide to the Inner Lives of Women The books instantly became bestsellers in just four years they sold than 1.5 million copies and have been translated intofifteen languages I became extremely busy with traveling and speaking, often at large women s conferences, churches, government workshops, or marriage seminars And over the next few years, I continued the process of investigating the key surprises in our personal relationships,researching and publishing books for teenagers about how the opposite sex thinks, as well as a book for parents to help them understand how their teenager thinks a scary prospect, I know But as each year went by, I continued and expanded my research of men, with an eye toward a book that would help women understand men in the workplace, and, ultimately, help women advance In 2007, I turned my full attention to understanding men in the workplace How do men privately think and feel about things at work that women don t already know What do men privately say when they are promised anonymity and can be completely honest andcandid, that we would never otherwise hear What are the truths that seem common to most men, regardless of personality, industry, age, race, or any other differing factor the private truths that we women often misunderstand, or miss completely, simply becausewe may be wired differently What do men privately say when they are promised anonymity and can be completely honest and candid that we would never otherwise hear Most important, what are the areas in which most men instinctively tend to act and think the same way, tend to subconsciously expect others to do the same, and view not doing so as anything from a confusing aberration to outright weakness In other words,which of these inner truths about men might unwittingly trip women up without our ever realizing it and which might help us to be even effective once we understand them In pursuing these questions I found, as I had with the research on For Women Only, that my analytical training and Wall Street experience provided an important if a bit unusual foundation for uncovering, analyzing, and communicating hidden truths abouthow people think I have a master s degree in public policy with a concentration in business from Harvard University my core classes in quantitative and qualitative analysis were taken at the Harvard Kennedy School, and my electives at Harvard Business School After graduation,I became a financial analyst at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, primarily investigating and analyzing what was going on underneath the surface of the Japanese financial meltdown, and sharing those findings at the highest levels of the Federal ReserveSystem I worked there for only three intense years, but it laid the foundation for an entirely new type of analysis of what was going on underneath the surface in relationships I am forever grateful to my former colleagues and supervisors for throwing me inat the deep end and setting their expectations high THE RESEARCH BEHIND THIS BOOK Reason is the slow and torturous method by which those who do not know the truth discover it BLAISE PASCAL During the years of investigating how men privately think in the workplace, I interviewed every businessman I could, distilled the truths that I felt would be the most helpful to women readers, and then worked with professional survey designers to developand conduct a nationally representative survey to test if what I was hearing was common to most men That sounds simple, but it required an intense effort involving me, seven of my staff researchers and assistants, several corporate consultants, and a teamof survey experts from two different companies over the course of eight years In the end, well over 1,500 men provided input specifically for this book, in addition to the 1,500 men who had contributed their insights to my previous research Those numbers don t just include official surveys and interviews I kept a notebook, pen, and digital recorder permanently by my side so I could capture informal interviews in the most unlikely places I travel a lot, and on every flight, if I was sittingnext to a man who was willing to talk most were , I would ask him questions At coffee shops, restaurants, on the subway, and in social gatherings, I looked for opportunities to strike up conversations with businessmen and conduct impromptu interviews Itcontinues to surprise me what a man will divulge when you don t know his name or where he works, and he s on a boring daily commute It is also amazing what a man will tell you when you do know his name and where he works but he has been guaranteed anonymity I guaranteed each man in writing that all quotes appearing in the book would be completely anonymous, and that they would neverbe able to be tied to a particular individual or organization To ensure that anonymity, I promised to judiciously alter identifying details As a result, I got virtual and often physical access to the inner offices and leaders of dozens of household name companies and organizations in every corner of the country and a few beyond our borders I interviewed hundreds of men from entrepreneurswith a start up staff of ten people, to businessmen who started some of our most recognized retailers I heard surprising insights from both middle level managers at small companies and C level executives of the largest companies in the world I sat down forinterviews in cluttered, disorganized offices in remote suburbs, and in the most luxurious penthouse suite offices I ve ever seen And I did several dozen conference calls with executives who were in cities beyond my immediate travel plans, but whom I couldn tafford to miss From Manhattan to Orlando, Omaha to Austin, Minneapolis to Los Angeles to Seattle, and of course in my current hometown of Atlanta, I was amazed and grateful for the breadth of input I was able to receive My main regret is that in the limited space of this book I am only able to pass along a fraction of what I have gathered I can t, for confidentiality reasons, post full transcripts of these conversations But if you go to The MaleFactorBook.com, the websitefor this book, I will over time post as much helpful information as I can, scrubbed of all identifying information About a dozen senior level businessmen proved to be particularly helpful and insightful and became in depth advisors during the process, agreeing to answer follow up questions or sitting for multiple interviews These advisors ranged from C levelexecutives at nationally recognized companies, to owners of thriving businesses, to partners at management consulting firms Some of these men are quoted multiple times although, like all others, they are identified by a fictitious first name You also will read a number of examples and stories relayed by a series of helpful female advisors, businesswomen who proved invaluable during this process Some of these women signed confidentiality statements and spent hours reading through transcriptsand draft chapters, setting up interviews with men, helping me develop and test the survey, and thinking through the application of what I was learning to their own experiences.Praise for The Male Factor The Male Factor is the singularly best business book for women I ve read in years This well researched yet thoroughly readable book is rich with rare insights into how men really see women in the workplace and how with a few simple adjustments you can even the playing field Lois P Frankel, Ph.D., author of Nice Girls Don t Get the Corner Office and See Jane Lead Many times in my career I ve been the only female in a meeting or holding a seat on the executive team, and I felt I needed a translator either to understand my male colleagues or to make sure they understood me The Male Factor provides that translation We no longer have to guess at what makes men tick in the workplace Shaunti Feldhahn asked them, and amazingly, they told her Stacie Hagan, Chief People Officer at Earthlink, Inc Smart, effective communication is what makes for successful leadership and productive workplaces The Male Factor sheds light on how subtle and not so subtle gender communication differences can thwart a womans rise in the workplace Even minor shifts in communication approach can help women navigate and break through that invisible barrier There is something here for every woman, no matter where you are in your career Linda Sawyer, CEO, Deutsch Inc. 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    • The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions, and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace eBook: Shaunti Feldhahn: Amazon.fr: Amazon Media EU S.à r.l.
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    • Shaunti Feldhahn
    • Anglais
    • 15 August 2017

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