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⊋  Format Kindle ᥒ Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others uk ⊙ Kindle Ebook By Laura van Dernoot Lipsky ⋨ ⊋ Format Kindle ᥒ Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others uk ⊙ Kindle Ebook By Laura van Dernoot Lipsky ⋨ On the Cliff of Awakening Are you sure all this trauma work hasnt gotten to you he asked We were visiting our relatives in the Caribbean We had hiked to the top of some cliffs on a small island, and for a moment the entire family stood quietly together, marveling, looking out at the sea It was an exquisite sight There was turquoise water as far as you could see, a vast, cloudless sky, and air that felt incredible to breathe As we reached the edge of the cliffs, my first thought was, This is unbelievably beautiful My second thought was,I wonder how many people have killed themselves by jumping off these cliffs Assuming that everyone around me would be having exactly the same thought, I posed my question out loud My stepfather in law turned to me slowly and asked his question with such sincerity that I finally understood My work had gotten to me I didnt even tell him the rest of what I was thinking Where will the helicopter land Where is the closest Level 1 trauma center Can they transport from this island to a hospital How long will that take Does all of the Caribbean share a trauma center It was quite a list I had always considered myself a self aware person, but this was the first time I truly comprehended the degree to which my work had transformed the way that I engaged with the world That was in 1997 I had already spent than a decade working, by choice, for social change My jobs had brought me into intimate contact with people who were living close to or actually experiencing different types of acute trauma homelessness, child abuse, domestic violence, substance abuse, community tragedies, natural disasters As I continued on this path, my roles had grown and shifted I had been an emergency room social worker, a community organizer, an immigrant and refugee advocate, an educator I had been a front line worker and a manager I had worked days, evenings, and graveyard shifts I had worked in my local community, elsewhere in the United States, and internationally Over time, there had been a number of peoplefriends, family, even clientsurging me to take some time off, think about some other work, or stop taking it all so seriously But I could not hear them I was impassioned, perhaps to the point of selective blindness I was blazing my own trail, and I believed that others just didnt get it I was certain that this work was my calling, my lifes mission I was arrogant and self righteous I was convinced that I was just fine The ringing in your earsI think I can help And so in that moment, on those cliffs, my sudden clarity about the works toll on my life had a profound impact Over the next days and weeks, I slowly began to make the connections Not everyone stands on top of cliffs wondering how many people have jumped Not everyone feels like crying when they see a room full of people with plastic lids on their to go coffee containers Not everyone is doing background checks on people they date, and pity is not everyones first response when they receive a wedding invitation After so many years of hearing stories of abuse, death, tragic accidents, and unhappiness of seeing photos of crime scenes, missing children, and deported loved ones and of visiting the homes of those I was trying to helpin other words, of bearing witness to others sufferingI finally came to understand that my exposure to other peoples trauma had changed me on a fundamental level There had been an osmosis I had absorbed and accumulated trauma to the point that it had become part of me, and my view of the world had changed I realized eventually that I had come into my work armed with a burning passion and a tremendous commitment, but few other internal resources As you know, there is a time for fire, but what sustains the heatfor the long haulis the coals And coals I had none of I did the work for a long time with very little ability to integrate my experiences emotionally, cognitively, spiritually, or physically Rather than staying in touch with the heart that was breaking, again and again, as a result of what I was witnessing, I had started building up walls In my case, this meant becoming increasingly cocky I had no access to the humility that we all need if we are to honestly engage our own internal process Rather than acknowledge my own pain and helplessness in the face of things I could not control, I raged at the possible external causes I sharpened my critique of systems and society I became dogmatic, opinionated, and intolerant of others views than ever before It never occurred to me that my anger might in part be functioning as a shield against what I was experiencing I had no clue that I was warding off anguish, or that I was secretly terrified that I wouldnt be able to hold my life together if I lost my long held conviction that all could be made well with the world if only we could do the right thing Without my noticing it, this trail I was blazing had led me into a tangled wilderness I was exhausted and thirsty, and no longer had the emotional or physical supplies I needed to continue I could have ignored the realization that began on those cliffs In the fields where I work, there is historically a widely held belief that if youre tough enough and cool enough and committed to your cause enough, youll keep on keeping on, youll suck it up Self care is for the weaker set I had internalized this belief to a large degree, but once I realized that this way of dealing with trauma exposure was creating deep inroads in my life, I could not return to my former relationship with my work Instead, I began the long haul of making change I knew that if I wanted to bring skill, insight, and energy to my work, my family, my community, and my own life, I had to alter my course I had to learn new navigational skills First, I needed to take responsibility for acknowledging the effects of trauma exposure within myself Second, I had to learn how to make room for my own internal processto create the space within to heal and to discover what I would need to continue with clarity on my chosen path I had to find some way to bear witness to trauma without surrendering my ability to live fully I needed a new framework of meaningthe concept that I would eventually come to call trauma stewardship Seung Sahn, the founder of the Kwan Um School of Zen, once said, The Great Way is easy all you have to do is let go of all your ideas, opinions, and preferences Following his advice, I began to reconnect with myself I learned how to be honest about how I was doing, moment by moment I put myself at the feet of a great many teachers, medicine people, healers, brilliant minds, and loved ones I asked for help I began to reengage the wilderness around my home and to learn all the lessons I could from the endless intermingling of beauty and brutality that makes us so keenly feel the preciousness of life in the natural world I began a daily practice that has allowed me to be present for my life and my work in a way that keeps me well and allows me to work with integrity and to the best of my ability Ultimately, I recognized that it was ego that had motivated me to keep on keeping on in my work long after I stopped being truly available to my clients or myself Over the years, I gradually let go of that faade, and I reached a deep understanding of how our exposure to the suffering of others takes a toll on us personally and professionally The depth, scope, and causes are different for everyone, but the fact that we are affected by the suffering of others and of our planetthat we have a trauma exposure responseis universal Trauma exposure response is only slowly coming to the fore as a larger social concern rather than simply an issue for isolated individuals It was first recognized a decade ago in family members of Holocaust survivors and spouses of war veterans, but it has only recently attracted wide attention from researchers, who are working to assess its broader societal implications To cite one example According to a March 2007 Newsweek article, a U.S Army internal advisory report on health care for troops in Iraq in 2006 indicated that 33 percent of behavioral health personnel, 45 percent of primary care specialists, and 27 percent of chaplains described feeling high or very high levels of provider fatigue.The article concluded with this blunt appraisal Now homecoming vets have to deal with one kind of collateral damage traumatized caregivers In 2007, CNN.com published an article by Andree LeRoy, M.D., titled Exhaustion, anger of caregiving get a name It begins,Do you take care of someone in your family with a chronic medical illness or dementia Have you felt depression, anger or guilt Has your health deteriorated since taking on the responsibility of caregiving If your answer is yes to any one of these, you may be suffering from caregiver stress The article reports a finding by the American Academy of Geriatric Psychiatrists that one out of every four families in the United States is caring for someone over the age of 50, with projections that this number will increase dramatically as the population in America ages Another source for the article is Peter Vitaliano, a professor of geriatric psychiatry at the University of Washington and an expert on caregiving He reports that many caregivers suffer from high blood pressure, diabetes, a compromised immune system, and other symptoms that can be linked to prolonged exposure to elevated levels of stress hormones Unfortunately, many dont seek help because they dont realize that they have a recognizable condition, the article says In addition, Vitaliano explains, caregivers are usually so immersed in their role that they neglect their own care The article cites online conversations among caregivers who acknowledge that in such an emotional state, its difficult to provide high quality care to their loved ones While most research to date has concentrated on the effects of trauma exposure on those who watch humans suffer, we know that responding to trauma exposure is critical for those who bear witness to tragedies afflicting other species as well Among these are veterinarians, animal rescue workers, biologists, and ecologists We cannot ignore emerging information about the profound levels of trauma exposure among people in the front lines of the environmental movementthose fighting to stop the juggernaut of global warming and those who strive desperately, in the face of mounting losses, to ward off the extinction of countless species of plants and animals Pioneering researchers have given our experience of being affected by others pain a number of names In this book, we refer to trauma exposure response Charles Figley uses the terms compassion fatigue and secondary traumatic stress disorder Laurie Anne Pearlman, Karen W Saakvitne, and I L McCann refer to the process as vicarious traumatization Jon Conte uses the words empathic strain Still others call it secondary trauma Here, we include trauma exposure response under a larger rubric trauma stewardship As I see it, trauma stewardship refers to the entire conversation about how we come to do this work, how we are affected by it, and how we make sense of and learn from our experiences In the dictionary, stewardship is defined as the careful and responsible management of something entrusted to ones care.These days, the term is widely used in connection with conservation and natural resource management In the January 2000 issue of the Journal of Agricultural and Environmental Ethics, Richard Worrell and Michael Appleby defined stewardship as taking care in a way that takes full and balanced account of the interests of society, future generations, and other species, as well as of private needs, and accepts significant answerability to society When we talk about trauma in terms of stewardship, we remember that we are being entrusted with peoples stories and their very lives, animals well being, and our planets health We understand that this is an incredible honor as well as a tremendous responsibility We know that as stewards, we create a space for and honor others hardship and suffering, and yet we do not assume their pain as our own We care for others to the best of our ability without taking on their paths as our paths We act with integrity toward our environment rather than being immobilized by the enormity of the current global climate crisis We develop and maintain a long term strategy that enables us to remain whole and helpful to others and our surroundings even amid great challenges To participate in trauma stewardship is to always remember the privilege and sacredness of being called to help It means maintaining our highest ethics, integrity, and responsibility every step of the way In this book, I will attempt to provide readers with a meaningful guide to becoming a trauma steward The essayist E B White once wrote that the early American author, naturalist, and philosopher Henry Thoreau appeared to have been torn by two powerful and opposing drivesthe desire to enjoy the world, and the urge to set the world straight This book is written for anyone who is doing work with an intention to make the world sustainable and hopefulall in all, a better placeand who, through this work, is exposed to the hardship, pain, crisis, trauma, or suffering of other living beings or the planet itself It is for those who notice that they are not the same people they once were, or are being told by their families, friends, colleagues, or pets that something is different about them Im afraid you bave bumans If even a few of the readers of this book can enhance their capacity for trauma stewardship, we can expect to see consequences, large and small, that will extend beyond us as individuals to affect our organizations, our movements, our communities, and ultimately society as a whole In part 1, I talk about what trauma stewardship is and how we can embark on our journey of change Since the first step toward repair is always to understand what isnt working, Ive devoted part 2 to mapping our trauma exposure response Many readers may be startled by how intimately they already know the 16 warning signs I present in chapter 4 Even if you havent experienced these feelings or behaviors yourself, you are certain to know others who have How do we escape the constriction and suffering that often accompany trauma exposure response In part 3, I provide some general tips, along with an in depth exploration of the importance of coming into the present moment In part 4, I offer the Five Directions, a guide that combines instructions for personal inquiry with practical advice that can greatly enhance our ability to care for ourselves, others, and the planet I have included numerous brief exercises that you may choose to try as you develop your daily practice Throughout the book, you will encounter profiles of inspiring people, perhaps much like you, who are deeply committed to the struggle to reconcile the hardships and joys of doing this work As we illuminate the path of trauma stewardship, we will also shine light on the larger contexts in which we interact with suffering We will delve deeply into how to carefully and responsibly manage what is being entrusted to us This book is a navigational tool for remembering that we have options at every step of our lives We choose our own path We can make a difference without suffering we can do meaningful work in a way that works for us and for those we serve We can enjoy the world and set it straight We can leave a legacy that embodies our deepest wisdom and greatest gifts instead of one that is burdened with our struggles and despair As the author of this book, I dont believe that I am imparting new information Rather, Im offering reminders of lore that people from different walks of life, cultural traditions, and spiritual practices have known for millennia There is a Native American teaching that babies come into the world knowing all they will need for their entire lifetimesbut the challenges of living in our strained, confusing world make them forget their innate wisdom They spend their lives trying to remember what they once knew Some say this is the reason why the elderly and very young children so often have a magical connection One is on the cusp of going where the other just came from This book aims to guide you, the reader, in finding a way home to yourself All of the wisdom you are about to encounter is known to you already This text is simply a way to help you remember.Reading this book is like looking into a mirror.We will see ourselves much clearly, will understand ourselves much better and will come up with better ways of being It and doing It Compassion, yes, Compassion is Happiness itself Enjoy THICH NHAT HANH, Zen Master and peace activist Anyone who works with traumatized people can be caught in the grip of anxiety, irritability, or overwhelming sadness By shutting out those feelings, you may sink into emotional numbness.You wish for wise words and a fresh perspec tive.You long for an understanding heart.You can find all that and in Laura van Dernoot Lipskys terrific bookIt will get you through hard times It will help you feel better and work smarter No trauma worker should be without it GINNY NICARTHY, counselor, educator, and author of Getting Free You Can End Abuse andTake BackYour Life Trauma Stewardship provides valuable advice for all those who toil for the bet terment of society and the environment we share Author Laura van Dernoot Lipskys lifetime of caring and service has given her powerful insights into those who have similarly devoted their lives to the greater good She reminds us all to embrace the joy of connecting with the people and planet that we cherish and serve JOHN FLICKER, President and CEO, National Audubon Society Laura makes a superb case for trauma stewardship as an approach that will benefit all of us in the service community who must deal with the struggles of our work with a hurting world Her real life stories hit home and clearly illus trate the ways that the traumatic situations we experience at work can carry into our personal view of our world Laura helps us understand our own responses to trauma and provides a path of renewal Her book offers tools to bring us back to a place of balance where we can be effective in our work, pres ent with our families, and importantly, at peace in our own soul MICHAEL L TUGGY, MD, Director, Swedish Medical Center Family Medicine Residency Program Medical Director, Swedish Family Medicine First Hill Clinic and recipient of the Bronze Star from the US Army Laura van Dernoot Lipsky and Trauma Stewardship gave me language to describe what I was feeling after three trips to Iraq and subsequent work among US service members struggling to heal from war Trauma Stewardship helped me acknowledge that my pain was not weakness to be suppressed or anesthetized but secondary trauma But perhaps most important, Trauma Stewardship has shown me a pathnot an easy one, to be sure, but a concrete onetoward a better and healthier life BRIAN PALMER, journalist Having been an attorney for only two years, I was both surprised and relieved to recognize many signs of secondary trauma in myself Surprised because I had never been able to acknowledge the impact of my work as a public defender in such a way relieved for the very same reason I have come to rely on this book as a means to help me bear the weight of what can feel like inexorable human tragedy It is only through the practices articulated and encouraged in Trauma Stewardship that my spirit remains intact Each person I represent is better served for my having used this book I recommend it to every public interest attorney and law student ELIZABETH LATIMER, public defense attorney, Brooklyn Defender Services It is extremely easy, especially as caregivers, to overlook ourselves and our care Laura takes us, the trauma stewards, on a journey of self healing her books humor will make you laugh its tools will help make us whole She reminds us that the work we do as caregivers not only impacts our clients but also deeply affects us Trauma Stewardship provides us with methods to help us get in touch with habits and feelings that no longer serve us, our communities, or our work A must read for all those who understand that this work we do is sacred KANIKA TAYLOR MURPHY, community activist Laura is a weaver She takes the harsh yet resilient fibers that are the stories of trauma survivors and workers, including her own, threads them together with common sense advice, and creates a warm and soft blanket that comforts and protects It is an important book because it reminds you to care for yourself as you care for others and then offers practical tools for doing so I wish Id had this book when I first began my work with women and children experiencing domestic violence GRETCHEN TEST, Program Associate for Child Welfare, Annie E Casey Foundation In this groundbreaking guide to trauma stewardship, van Dernoot Lipsky shines new light on the care of the healers in the helping professions and provides a useful and loving guide to developing our ability to care for ourselves as much as we care for others Anyone in the helping professions will benefit from the profound insights offered in this book MIA EISENSTADT, consultant, activist, and anthropologist The Trauma Stewardship Institute Official Site Laura van Dernoot Lipsky, founder and director of The author An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Others, has worked directly with trauma survivors than three decades Trauma Others Kindle edition by Connie Burk Download it once read helped me acknowledge that my pain was not weakness be suppressed or anesthetized but secondary But perhaps most important, shown a path an easy one, sure, concrete one toward better healthier life Inside the Book Institute stewardship calls into question whether means exposure direct indirect, through relationships those exposed any relevance impact Most all, on us remember is gift present when people deal reminds our responsibility care nurture capacity help To participate in always privilege sacredness being called It maintaining highest ethics, integrity, every step way Be Nourished After watching this talk, you might find yourself wanting know We love s book This will required reading Provider Certification Program,which launch fall Warm regards, Ford Family Foundation Stewardship, vanDernoot Lipsky definitely just what says In profession others, where compassionate healing within others myself, source wisdom, understanding peace From Berrett Koehler 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    • Trauma Stewardship: An Everyday Guide to Caring for Self While Caring for Others
    • 2.3
    • 152
    • Format Kindle
    • 292 pages
    • Laura van Dernoot Lipsky
    • Anglais
    • 04 December 2018

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